I don't mean to be condescending. Really I am not!
The answer to your question is you should learn to be a good poker player.
The best way to learn something is to follow the example of masters.
My poker experience started with David Sklansky books.
I suggest "No Limit Hold ‘em Theory and Practice by David Sklansky and Ed Miller". You can google other books.It's a personal choice.
Of course, if you're not interested investing into this game beyond home games for fun, then you could read basic strategies online. Poker Strategy is a good place to start.
There's no simple answer to your question. Every strategy will always have a counter-strategy :-)